As a pregnancy loss recovery coach, I’ve seen firsthand how triggers can impact bereaved parents. While the intensity may lessen over time, these triggers can persist for years. Today, I want to share a method I’ve developed to help navigate these difficult moments.
Understanding Triggers
Triggers are anything that spark intense negative emotions. For baby loss parents, common triggers include:
- Seeing a baby the same age as the one you lost
- Pregnancy announcements
- Encountering pregnant women
- Insensitive comments
- Thoughts about missed milestones
- Recalling your loss experience
- Your partner’s grief
- Fear of the future
These can strike at any time, plunging you from a neutral state into deep grief within minutes.
The HEAL Method
To help manage these triggers, I’ve developed the HEAL method:
H – Hurt Allow yourself to feel the pain. Let the tears flow, scream, or do whatever you need to express your emotions. Suppressing these feelings only allows them to fester.
E – Empower After acknowledging the hurt, empower yourself with positive affirmations. Try statements like “I am wiser and stronger than I ever knew I could be” or “This experience has changed me, but I will find a way to use it for good.”
A – Accept Accept your new reality. Recognize that while you can’t change the past, you can choose how to move forward. Accept that you’re forever changed and that your journey now includes finding meaning in your baby’s life.
L – Live Breathe, laugh, and reconnect with life. Honor your baby by living fully. This is where you begin to create your “new normal,” incorporating what you value most.
Identifying Your Triggers
To effectively use this method, start by identifying your specific triggers. Write them down and note how each one makes you feel. Also, pay attention to your physical reactions – where in your body do you feel the trigger’s impact?
Practice and Patience
With practice, you can reduce the power these triggers hold over you. Remember, healing is about learning to manage these moments, not eliminating them entirely.
While the journey of healing after baby loss is challenging, tools like the HEAL method can help you navigate the difficult moments. Remember, you’re not alone in this journey. Reach out for support when you need it.
If you’re struggling and need guidance, don’t hesitate to sign up for a free SUpport Call by visiting my website at jennifersenn.com.
Remember, your baby’s life has meaning, and you have the joy to carry that meaning forward.
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