Losing a child is one of the most devastating experiences a parent can face. For Crystal Webster, the loss of her daughter Madelyn at just 8 hours old became a catalyst for profound personal growth and a mission to support others facing similar grief.
Crystal’s story begins like many others – with the joy of expecting her first child. But at 32 weeks, an ultrasound revealed complications. Despite hopes for the best, Madelyn lived for only 8 hours after an emergency C-section. In the aftermath, Crystal and her husband learned of a rare chromosomal condition that gave them only a 1% chance of a successful pregnancy in the future.
The grief was overwhelming. Crystal shouldered immense guilt, feeling responsible not just for Madelyn’s death but for dashing her family’s dreams. Yet through this pain, she began to reevaluate her life’s priorities and purpose.
“When it doesn’t play out like you think, you really have to [ask] okay, is that what’s truly important to me? Because they’re now decisions, they’re not just going through the motions,” Crystal reflects.
This shift in perspective eventually led Crystal to create Sharing Solace, an organization dedicated to supporting those experiencing grief. The concept came to her suddenly, feeling divinely inspired by Madelyn herself. Sharing Solace offers unique keepsake necklaces and keychains designed to be held close for comfort, then passed on to others when the time feels right.
Crystal’s journey has taught her valuable lessons about grief:
- Grief is universal yet unique. While we shouldn’t compare losses, recognizing shared experiences can be healing.
- There’s no timeline for grief. It’s an ongoing process of learning to carry the weight.
- You have a choice in how grief shapes you. As Crystal puts it, “Life can make you bitter or it can make you better.”
- Connection is crucial. Grief, especially child loss, can be isolating. Reaching out and sharing stories helps immensely.
For those feeling hopeless in their grief, Crystal offers this advice: “Remember you’re not alone.” While the pain may feel insurmountable, there is support available if you choose to accept it.
Crystal’s book and the work of Sharing Solace continue to touch lives, offering comfort and community to those navigating the difficult journey of loss. Her story reminds us that even in our darkest moments, there is potential for healing, growth, and finding a new purpose.
To learn more about Crystal’s work or to find support, visit sharingsolace.com.
Jennifer Senn is a certified life coach who is also a bereaved mom of twin girls born at 32 weeks. She helps stillbirth moms let go of guilt, process their grief and figure out what’s next for their future. You can learn more about her and schedule a free support session at jennifersenn.com.
