In a recent interview, we had the privilege of speaking with Deborah Kilby, a spirit baby medium, healer, and author of “Rosa’s Choice: Healing the Wounds of the Mother.” Deborah’s journey through baby loss and her eventual awakening to spiritual connection offers hope and comfort to those navigating similar paths.
Debra’s Story
Debra’s journey began with the birth of her first son, followed by three miscarriages. Each loss brought its own challenges, from suppressing grief to anger and feelings of unworthiness. Her turning point came with her pregnancy with Rosa, which ended in a termination for medical reasons. This experience led Deborah to question her identity and seek healing.
Discovering Spirit Baby Mediumship
Debra’s path to becoming a spirit baby medium wasn’t immediate. It began with self-development and healing, gradually opening up her intuition. A pivotal moment occurred during a retreat in Ireland, where she first experienced connecting with spirits of babies. This experience, coupled with supporting other women through baby loss, eventually led her to fully embrace her gift of communicating with spirit babies.
The Comfort of Connection
One of the most profound aspects of Deborah’s work is the comfort it brings to grieving parents. She emphasizes that our babies are always with us in spirit, and we all have the innate ability to connect with them. This connection can take various forms – through visualization, hearing, feeling, or simply knowing.
Rosa’s Choice
Debra’s book, “Rosa’s Choice,” came from a powerful realization that her experience with Rosa, while painful, had transformed her life. Rosa communicated that it was her choice too, offering a perspective that can bring immense comfort to those struggling with guilt or shame after loss.
How Spirit Baby Readings Help
Spirit baby readings can help women who are seeking to make sense of their loss or find peace. These sessions provide a safe space for women to express their feelings and receive messages from their babies. The babies often offer a different perspective on the loss, helping to ease suffering and guilt.
Overcoming Fear of Connection
For those hesitant about connecting with their spirit babies, Debra reassures that there’s nothing to fear. The messages from babies are always rooted in love and support. They aim to help mothers see themselves as whole and loved, beyond the pain of loss.
Other Ways to Connect and Heal
Besides spiritual connection, Debra encourages women to:
- Give themselves time to simply be
- Feel and accept their emotions without judgment
- Practice breathing exercises and self-soothing techniques like EFT tapping
- Connect with water, which holds soul memories
- Practice presence by asking “Where am I?” to ground oneself in the moment
Debra’s work offers a unique and comforting perspective on baby loss, reminding us that our connections with our babies continue beyond the physical realm. Her approach combines spiritual insight with practical healing techniques, providing a holistic path to healing for grieving parents.
For those interested in learning more about Debra’s work or connecting with her, visit her website at debrakilby.com or find her on Facebook and Instagram under “Debra Kilby Healing and Channeling.”
Jennifer Senn is a certified life coach who is also a bereaved mom of twin girls born at 32 weeks. She helps stillbirth moms let go of guilt, process their grief, and figure out what’s next for their future. You can learn more about her and schedule a free support session at jennifersenn.com.
