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40: Unprocessed Grief After Stillbirth: Heather Gilbert’s Journey

Heather Gilbert Episode 40

The loss of a child is an unimaginable tragedy that can leave lasting impacts on parents. In a recent interview, Heather Gilbert shared her powerful story of losing her stillborn son and the decade-long journey of dealing with unprocessed grief. Her experiences offer valuable insights for those who may be struggling with similar loss.

Heather’s Story

At 24, Heather was excitedly preparing for the arrival of her first child. However, at her 38-week checkup, she received the devastating news that her baby had no heartbeat. She delivered her stillborn son and found herself planning a funeral instead of bringing home a newborn.

The Aftermath

In the immediate aftermath, Heather experienced shock and numbness. She returned to work after her maternity leave, facing well-meaning but painful congratulations from those unaware of her loss. This led to her labeling herself as “the girl whose baby died,” an identity that would shape her life for years to come.

Unprocessed Grief and Its Effects

Heather’s story highlights several key symptoms of unprocessed grief:

  1. Insomnia
  2. Paranoia
  3. Depression
  4. Suicidal ideation
  5. Anger towards God
  6. Physical symptoms like chronic back pain

These symptoms persisted for years, affecting her marriage, which eventually ended in divorce, and her parenting of her subsequent child.

The Turning Point

It wasn’t until Heather joined support groups like Divorce Care and sought professional help that she began to process her grief. She emphasizes the importance of finding support and allowing yourself to be vulnerable.

Advice for Others

Heather offers several pieces of advice for those who might be experiencing unprocessed grief:

  1. Recognize the signs: Persistent crying, inability to sleep, and physical symptoms can all be indicators.
  2. Seek professional help: Don’t hesitate to reach out to doctors, therapists, or support groups.
  3. Talk about it: Even if people haven’t been through exactly what you have, sharing your story can be healing.
  4. Be patient with yourself: Grief is a process, and it’s okay to take the time you need.
  5. Consider your faith: For Heather, reconnecting with her faith was an important part of her healing journey.

Moving Forward

While the pain of loss never completely disappears, Heather’s story shows that healing is possible. She’s now happily remarried with a blended family and has found ways to honor her stillborn son’s memory while living a fulfilling life.

For those interested in learning more about Heather’s story or seeking resources for dealing with grief, visit her website at heathergilbert.com.

Remember, if you’re struggling with grief or thoughts of self-harm, don’t hesitate to reach out for professional help. You’re not alone, and there is support available.


Jennifer Senn is a certified life coach who is also a bereaved mom of twin girls born at 32 weeks. She helps stillbirth moms let go of guilt, process their grief, and figure out what’s next for their future. You can learn more about her and schedule a free support session at  jennifersenn.com.

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