As Mother’s Day approaches, many women who have experienced baby loss find themselves struggling with mixed emotions and difficult situations. In this post, we’ll explore some coping strategies and the importance of setting boundaries during this sensitive time.
Coping Strategies for Mother’s Day
- Take a break from social media: If you find the constant stream of Mother’s Day messages overwhelming or triggering, consider taking a break from social media platforms. Unfollow or snooze accounts that are particularly difficult to see.
- Create a self-care plan: Develop a list of activities that bring you comfort and joy. This could include outdoor walks, reading a book, taking a bath, or revisiting an old hobby. Remember, self-care doesn’t have to be elaborate – it’s about doing things that make you feel good.
- Talk to someone who understands: Share your experiences with someone who has been through a similar loss. Having a supportive listener who truly understands can be incredibly healing.
- Honor your child’s memory: Find a way to remember and celebrate your baby on Mother’s Day. This could be lighting a candle, planting a flower, or purchasing a meaningful item.
- Practice mindfulness: Use mindfulness techniques to quiet negative thoughts and stay present. Try deep breathing exercises, visualization, or guided meditations to help manage difficult emotions.
Setting Boundaries
It’s crucial to communicate your needs and set boundaries during this challenging time. Here are some tips:
- Be clear about your needs: It’s okay to express what you need from others, even if it means declining invitations or changing plans.
- Say no when necessary: Don’t feel obligated to attend events or gatherings if you’re not comfortable. Saying no is a form of self-care.
- Communicate firmly: Be clear and firm in expressing your feelings and decisions. Remember, you don’t need permission to take care of yourself.
- Prioritize your well-being: Setting boundaries isn’t selfish – it’s necessary for your healing process.
Remember, there’s no right or wrong way to approach Mother’s Day after a loss. Whether you choose to celebrate or treat it as just another day, the most important thing is to honor your feelings and take care of yourself.
Invitation to Join Navigating Mother’s Day Series
If you’re looking for additional support, consider joining our Navigating Mother’s Day series starting May 10th. This four-week program offers coping strategies, community support, and tools to help you navigate this challenging time. For more information and to sign up, visit jennifersenn.com
Wishing you peace and healing this Mother’s Day, however you choose to spend it.
Jennifer Senn is a certified life coach who is also a bereaved mom of twin girls born at 32 weeks. She helps stillbirth moms let go of guilt, process their grief, and figure out what’s next for their future. You can learn more about her and schedule a free support session at jennifersenn.com.
