Katie Bordelon, is a bereaved mother who lost her twins, Scarlett and Jackson, at 19 weeks gestation. Katie bravely shared her heart-wrenching story, offering insights into her grief journey and how her faith has played a crucial role in her healing process.
Katie’s Story:
Katie’s ordeal began on what seemed like a normal Tuesday evening. After experiencing sudden, sharp pains and other concerning symptoms, she realized her water had broken prematurely. Despite rushing to the hospital, Katie tragically delivered her daughter Scarlett, who was stillborn. The following day, due to a severe infection, Katie had to be induced to deliver her son Jackson, who lived for just over an hour after birth.
Coping with Grief:
Now, five months after her loss, Katie reflects on what has helped her in the healing process:
- Connecting with other bereaved parents
- Listening to podcasts and reading books on grief
- Learning to say “no” to potentially triggering events
- Taking each day as it comes
- Honoring her children in daily actions
Katie emphasizes the importance of understanding that grief is not linear and that it’s crucial to feel every emotion as it arises.
Relationship Challenges:
Katie discusses how grief has affected her relationship with her husband, noting that they grieve differently. She stresses the importance of open communication and respecting each other’s grieving styles to maintain a strong foundation in their marriage.
The Role of Faith:
Unlike some who experience anger towards God after loss, Katie found immediate comfort in her faith. She turned to prayer and worship music for solace, recognizing that her beliefs would be crucial in navigating her grief journey.
Surprising Aspects of Loss:
Katie shares some unexpected challenges she’s faced, including:
- Hurtful comments or silence from others
- New, sometimes difficult thought patterns
- The ongoing nature of grief
Moving Forward:
As Katie continues to heal, she’s focusing on:
- Starting a new business venture
- Prioritizing self-care and healthy habits
- Strengthening relationships with her husband and stepson
- Sharing her story to help others
A Message to Other Bereaved Parents:
Katie’s advice to other loss parents is to take grief day by day, feel every emotion, and not try to avoid the pain. She also emphasizes the comfort she finds in her faith, holding onto the promise of reuniting with her children in eternity.
Katie’s story is a powerful reminder of the complex nature of grief after stillbirth. By sharing her experience, she hopes to bring comfort to others facing similar losses and to educate those who want to support bereaved parents.
Jennifer Senn is a certified life coach who is also a bereaved mom of twin girls born at 32 weeks. She helps stillbirth moms let go of guilt, process their grief, and figure out what’s next for their future. You can learn more about her and schedule a free support session at jennifersenn.com.
